Another dose of Special K

My not writing anything for a long time doesn’t mean that I have found ‘the one’. It just means that I am super busy at work and that there is not much going on in my private life.

The last time I wrote about “Special K” he was just leaving for vacation. So one week into his vacation I got a mail from him telling me that a bit about his trip but also saying that he had a really good time with me and ended the mail with a kiss. Now this was a first and I have to be honest I kind of got excited. Always very bad with Special K as I know from experience.

I know that he would be away for three weeks and really shortly before his return there was another email from him in my inbox, telling me that he would return in two days and if I wanted to meet on Thursday last week. I could come over to his place, he had it all to himself and he didn’t want to leave the cat alone! I was not sure about the meaning of the cat reference, but since I couldn’t make it last Thursday I suggested to get together on Friday or Saturday. And guess what? I didn’t hear from him.

Tuesday this week then I got another email from him in which he mentioned in passing that he got my mail and also read it (Thank God I didn’t write a follow-up mail to check if he had gotten my mail….puhh!). But since he was busy anyway last weekend…. Great guy, no? I am not allowed to fall in love with him again!!

He told me that Wednesday next week will be his last day and that he was leaving for work after. He would still love to meet and if I had any time next week. So I wrote back that I am super busy but that I would cancel something and he could choose his preferred day. And then again no answer for two days. Honestly, my mind was made up that if he would write on Monday to get together on Monday I would not give in to all the wicked temptation!

Luckily for him (and also for me) he wrote yesterday tha the would like to see me on Monday and that it’s super nice of me to cancel my evening for him. And, and this was the cutest part of the mail, his invitation to his place is no longer standing since he didn’t have the place to himself any longer (I am really glad I know who lives with him and it’s not a wife!!) and if he could come to my place and stay. OMG, my heart was melting. Also I still have his toothbrush from last time. So I see him on Monday!

Going out with friends

Thursday night I was out with my girls. There is a monthly party here in Vienna called ‘Thirty Dancing’ which is the perfect place to be if you want to meet people. We have no place like it in Vienna where one can meet so many ‘right age group’ people. As the name implies one has to be over thirty to get in.

It is socially very interesting to observe that the guests consist mostly of older women and younger men in the beginning of the evening (it starts at 7) and then kind of turns around 11. Why is that? What exactly are younger guys seeing in older woman? And when does this change? I mean there are no men over 50 with older women (at least not out in public and unless one looks like Susan Sarandon…).

Anyway I am losing sight here of what I wanted to say. My point is that I had fun partying with my friends. And two guys came up to me and talked to me which rarely happens. They were both cute. We didn’t exchange any details but I like the fact that I get talked up again and that guys are approaching me.

That must mean that not only do I feel relaxed but also that it’s noticeable. Love it, love it, love it!

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Special K

While experiencing my latest online drama an old friend of mine got in touch again. I have known little K since I was 16 and during highschool he was very much in love with me. I don’t think I ever felt the same for him but I have very fond memories of us together.

Fast forward a couple of years (we are now three years ago), K got in touch via Facebook, we met and had an unforgettable evening. Everything happened that didn’t happen during highschool. Only difference was that now I fell in love with him and he wasn’t with me. We spent a couple of weeks “together” and lost touch again since he moved to Africa for a couple of months and I still hoped for a career here.

Still we kept on mailing every couple of months and I knew what he was up to. Fast forward again to three weeks ago. Kind of out of the blue I get an email that he will be in town and if I wanted to go for a drink. We agreed on a day and decided arrange the place spontaneously. In the end we met at the exact same place as three years ago. Which was funny and but maybe in hindsight also an indicator about what was to happen.

I was really happy to see him and didn’t feel one bit self-conscious despite of how we left off. And I got the same feeling from him. We spent the whole evening watching a soccer game first and then catching up on each other’s life. The atmosphere was light and pleasant between us and it just felt good and right to be with him. And then shortly before going home everything changed with one super charged look from him and I could actually see myself melting.

We kissed right there in the bar and left 5 minutes later. I loved it that on the way home he took my hand and that we kissed right in the middle of the metro. It made me feel like a teenager again. The next morning when he left he wished me a pleasant day and I told him to have a great vacation for which he was leaving three days later. I felt great, had no regrets and no expectations. Always a great combination.

I was pretty sure though that he would get in touch later in November when he would be back from his vacation and before he would start his new job outside of town. Plus I know that doesn’t really like email. All the bigger my astonishment when I saw his email on Monday morning. Which was basically telling me that he had thought about me.

My problem now is that I am already starting to interpret this email and that I was way to pleased to hear from him. This is not healthy at all! Also he was just probably doing the ground work for more hopping into the sack the moment he is back in town. Urgh!!! Why am I so easily excitable over something like an email?

On the other hand it is the first time ever that he referred to time spent together. He had never done anything like it before. Maybe I should just shut up about it and enjoy whatever is happening from the time he is back until he leaves in January? It’s not like I have something better to do. My online dating is getting me nowhere. Or maybe it is getting me nowhere because my heart is otherwise attached. Which cannot be because this thing with little K only started this week and before that nothing had happened either in the online dating field. What’s a girl to do? And the little by the way refers to his being so skinny and quite small. He is actually not my type at all. But maybe that makes him so special?

One special date

The same week I saw P I also met big K. I have to call him that so that you can keep track of what’s happening. In the first picture big K sent me he really looked kind of cute. He also reminded me of my first love and even though he is older and not as tall as I like them, I found him very interesting to talk to and agreed to meet with him.
What was kind of weird beforehand was that he sent me a text on the day before we met, asking me if I still wanted to meet with him, the grey haired, portly, funny man. Thanking him for his warning I said I would take up the challenge and still meet with him. I knew that he was not the skinny kind, I could see it on his picture, but I was still interested. Still it’s kind of unsexy if a guy puts himself down. Usually they are getting high on their self-esteem.
Then the next day he sent another text: “Bad luck for you, I am not sick”! What’s up with this guy?
With this happening a mere hours before we met you can imagine that my excitement was below freezing level.

Finally it was 6:30pm, he picked me up from my apartment and I got into his car. Please don’t get carried away about the danger of this all. I am living in one of the safest countries in the world, plus with the bit of information he gave me I googled him. And I just knew that with such an esteemed member of our society there was no question of anything bad happening to me. I don’t normally do that but here it felt ok.

Anyway, let’s get to the point. He waited in the car for me and watched my face while I took his measure (in the literal sense). So he was kind of big but not in an unappealing way. Then he proposed on going for a drink to a really nice roof top bar where I had not been before. This is just the place where you have to go on a date and be invited for a drink. Otherwise it is too expensive and there is not enough happening for it.

The evening with him proved to be nice. Really just nice, there was a bit of spark, the conversation kept flowing and the drinks were delicious. Plus he invited me which is not something you can expect anymore. He gave me a lift home and then we said goodbye just by shaking hands which was a bit awkward. Later I got a text from him thanking me for my smile and a wonderful evening. I know it’s corny but I am sucker for this kind of stuff.

So I texted back the next morning also thanking him for a lovely evening. Then we texted back and forth a bit and he finally asked when we could see each other again and suggests a day. I told I couldn’t make it on that particular day but suggested two other days. He objected to both, then ending with “we will find an evening…”.

After that I didn’t hear from him for about a week when I finally sent another text asking if he was traveling. That was one of the reasons he gave for declining my suggested evening. He texted back right away that he was in Germany but was coming back the next day. We then agreed on him calling me around 10pm after his dinner with clients. He finally called at 11:45pm. I was still awake and up and he had sent a text before asking if it was ok to call now.

And then it got weird because he wanted to know why I got in touch with him first when I so clearly stated at our date that I wanted him to call first. So I told him the truth that I found it weird to wait for a week to hear from him again and if he hadn’t had answered the text today I would have deleted his contact details. Where is the interest in getting to know someone if you don’t show any?
He then asked me if I was horny?? Just because I got in touch? What is up with this weirdo?
So then he suggested another day and I told him I would get back to him the next day if it was possible for me. It was not, I suggested another day and now we meet on Saturday.

And I still can’t believe I even agreed to meet with him in the first place after this phone call. After what he asked me, just because I got in touch with him first. The guy is 48 and behaves worse than a guy in his twenties (I met some really mature younger guys in my time).

And you know what? Now I don’t want to meet anymore. We talked exactly one week ago. He never called or texted in between. He also told me in no uncertain terms that he expects me to think and arrange on where we go and what we do. As if choosing a bar for the first date absolves him for ever more. No, I am not into him anymore. Whatever spark there was got crushed in this weird aftermath of never talking to him and when I was talking to him he just ruined it with his unbelievable questions.

I know I still owe you the story of little K, but this has to come some other time. And it’s way better!

Update from the dating front

I met the first guy finally last Friday. C looked like a geek from his picture but turned out even worse. We were actually supposed to meet before but then settled on last Friday.
The day after talking to him I noticed that it was soccer qualification night with an exceptionally important game for Austria (which we lost but that’s another story). Anyway, in my mind I was like, no way I am going to see it with this guy I don’t know. I want to have some fun and see it together with friends. So I made plans for the night and thought to myself that I will just have to let the guy know.

Come Friday night I leave my Pilates class when I get a call from C that he was already at our meeting place. Sh*t I forgot to cancel. So had to meet him since we made plans first. Canceled my friends on the way to the bar and just accepted my fate. It was all my fault anyway.

On seeing him disappointment kept coming in waves. He looked even worse than expected. You know pictures can only show so much from a person. He looked exactly like his picture but also a lot worse. Plus his style, his cheap personality and his overall cockiness just added to the conviction that this will be a one time event. Since the game was already running I stayed and spent the evening. When we said goodnight later he apparently had had a different impression from how our date went and instead airkissing my cheek he zoomed in on my mouth. I could just turn my head in time to avoid a smacker. Just writing about it makes me almost sick. So this was C.

Monday night I met P. P is nine years older than I, so not at all my usual type. But I thought I would branch out a bit, not that I was so successful with my type before. I was late on meeting him (sent him a text of course) because I had to work late and wanted to go for a run and didn’t want to cancel that just for a date. So shortly before I arrive I get a text from him that he is waiting inside in the smoking zone. Don’t ask, we still have that here. Austria is a bit backwards when it comes to health issues.

So I was already miffed when I arrived. What was the point of washing my hair if I would smell like an ashtray after? Once I arrive at our table I looked at him and got a faint feeling of recognition. And indeed, an hour into hour conversation (which flowed easily) he mentioned his former employer and all of a sudden I remembered. “OMG, I met you ten years ago already at the same dating platform”. First he was like this cannot be but upon asking me why it never worked out between us I told him that at that time he listed himself as divorced in his profile while in the meantime he was still married. I never ever date married guys. There is only heartache and pain in store as far as I know from all my friends. And you know what’s funny, he told me that he still was married. The cheek of it!

Cringe attack

My date on Saturday did not happen. We talked before on the phone and he sounded like a stuffy old man. I just had to make an excuse and begged off. Urgh, didn’t want to waste my evening with this guy. See, this comes from forgetting that I don’t like older men. When I talk to them and I can already hear that there is no connection whatsoever.

Meanwhile I am juggling quite a bit of different guys per mail and texts. Some of them get in touch quite often, others not so. Of course the one I liked best so far, didn’t get back after the phone call. I followed up with an email two days later to which he replied but no answer to my last one. So getting anywhere with him…

Yesterday I was supposed to have another date quite late after a work-out session. I called and canceled 45 minutes before meeting him and he understood that I was super tired after the training. Problem is that he asked for another picture (the one I have online is with sunglasses) and then I sent the picture to the wrong guy. Plus I apologized again for canceling.

So embarrassing especially since the other guy thought I was only emailing with him. However did he get that impression. It happened because I was texting with him at this moment so I mixed up their names and oops, sent to the wrong guy. Then I wanted to save the situation by telling him that I was home and he could call my land line (my cell gets not enough reception to have a conversation, just enough for texts) . Five minutes later he texts that he called and I didn’t pick up. Saw then that I had left the cordless on the couch and that it ran out of battery. I apologized again but then deleted everything. Am sure that I will never hear from him again.

How do you go about online dating? I believe when you sign up somewhere it is clear that you make the most out of it and get in touch with as many people as possible. The eliminating starts soon enough. But how can someone get the impression he is the only one? How can emailing be exclusive? In the end it doesn’t matter, I will not hear from G. again.

Having fun

So my inbox got flooded this week by lots of emails from old guys wanting to wine and dine me and young guys wanting to just f*ck me. And in between a couple of mails from seemingly regular guys within the right age group.

Ok, so maybe my age group is narrow and I rather like them younger than older. I am old myself, no reason therefore to look for someone a lot older. Also my other ‘problem’: I like them tall. I am quite small (maybe even on the tiny side) so why should I date someone the same size? I want a man to look up in all possible ways.

I think I have my first date tomorrow afternoon. Honestly I don’t know. I gave out my number to three guys and with one of them I arranged to meet tomorrow. We are seeing an exhibition. At least I think so. Anyway I saved all their numbers with their respective picture so I will know whom I meet.

So I am sure you think now I am not taking this serious enough. But you know what? I took it all very serious for a long time and nothing happened. So the worst that can happen now is that I at least have fun.

Online dating

Today I used my lunch break to sign up again with an online dating platform. I was so proud of myself to leave all this behind in July and now I am back I the game. But honestly I got bored. You go out and meet nobody. How is that even possible that guys are not coming up anymore to women and just talk to them?
Anyway, I put a picture up and my mailbox got flooded. Am just now trying to read through it a bit. Will have to leave a lot for tomorrow’s lunch break. But you what? Just love it!

No date actually

I was supposed to get a fancy dinner from this one guy J. I emailed with online. He already invited me and due to my vacation I had to postpone. But he agreed, talked about making a reservation and then never emailed back. ???

Not that I wanted this date to go any further! He already put me off him when I wrote something about taking about for dinner and then seducing me. What’s that supposed to mean? You buy me dinner and therefore I owe you something? Guys are weird, there is just no other way to put it.

Meanwhile R. is still kind of keeping in touch. Have a feeling that he is cyber stalking me on fb. He can do all he wants there. Not much is on my page and I almost never update it. Still he sent an invitation for a football game. He is playing senior league. Do I want to go there? Maybe, but not to meet him. And then it would definitely send the wrong signal. But otherwise it would be a great place to meet some guys. Because where else am I going to meet them? For sure not at work, home or any of the other places I frequent. So what’s a girl to do?

Maybe sign up again for some online dating? I just canceled all of them in summer and was glad I got rid of them. But honestly I am kind of bored. I love to go on dates. And all my friends are now in relationships except for one friend I don’t want to meet alone. So what’s your advice?

Always the wrong ones call

How come always the guys who aren’t interesting at all stay in touch? Twice actually. The boring date from 2 weeks ago sent me a text wishing me a nice vacation. I didn’t bother to answer (I know, I know quite heartless). Then another text 3 days ago asking me if I was already back. How come R. stays in touch?
I really felt he realized as well that there was no connection. Weird…or maybe it is just me?

Also while on away I got an email from J., another from the dating website. I had given him my personal email which I use for dating. He asked me on Tuesday if he could invite me for dinner (at a super fancy restaurant) on Thursday to get to know me and seduce me??? WTF?? I wrote back that we had already agreed on a date this Thursday since I was not in town last week. I also ignored the seducing part. Honestly if he wants to buy me dinner at this place, go ahead. I will definitely go home alone. Who does he think he is besides a presumptuous idiot?

Anyway am going out on Thursday again and will let you know how it went.